How to control anxiety and reduce stress and fatigue in real life and working environment also? Swaminathan. K

Question

Hi! This is Swaminathan &'m working in site based environment under tremendous work pressure. Whether unmarried upto 32 years make me feel so or basically environment where i am living in compels to think that. Actually, to be human being & be respectable what are the basic criterion to follow.

I'm suffering for past three years and away from my family most of the time. Now my family members are not trusting me as and when i get married. Now time has to decide what direction it tends to go (either +ve or -ve way). I believe in my life partner and should be understanding and working in a company or having wealthy environment so that i will not work in Gulf anymore or she should accompany me in my trials and tribulations throughtout my lifetime.
She will get it back in equivalent propotions. My effiency and planning gradually go down as the years are passing in desert and
i will be with my family only 26 days whenever i'm getting rest days after my continuous working days in desert.

Answer 1

Dear W.S Swaminathan,



Writing this info for you sitting near the sarayu river which is close to nallapa's grove.Completely empathise with your situation.Life is all about choices There would have been a compelling reason for you not to marry till 32.Looks like you are committment phobic and manage to stay away from reality of relationships of life.Please understand " SHAADI KA LADOO JO KHAYE WOH PACHTHAYE, JO NAHIN KHAYE WOH BHI PACHTHAYE".Do not hurry it up, start socialising, make new friends , be a friend first and do not expect anything in return.Prioritise your job vs family life .Enjoy every moment of life.Life is all about experiencing and celebrating as long as you do not harm others and harm yourself.Is possible offer unconditional help.Watch some good comedy movies,share jokes , do community service.explore life pal - THIS IS ONE LIFE, ONE MOMENT - YOU CANNOT PLEASE ALL, If you are not comfortable with yourself , you will not be comfortable with the world.To be happy you have to be simple, to be simple its tough and ALL OF US say "I WANT HAPPINESS" .Eliminate "I " AND WANT" what exists ........



Try vipassana or osho



your friend from malgudi

mani



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Answer 2

Hi, Swaminathan your 32 and unmarried surly you have missed a lot in life but still it is not too late.i can see that you are feeling really lonely ,miserable and home sick.First cheer up and look at the world around you, everybody is having problems but that is not going to stop people from being happy.Go out with your friends(really good ones)and have fun with them or search for a suitable person who can understand you and get married (this is what you are in need of a person whom you can LOVE and TRUST).if still you are not feeling OK,why don't you resign your job and come back home.there are a lot of job opportunities in India and you are well talented person.So always think positive and cheer up.you are the one who is having full control of your life.do what your heart says and do not listen to what others speak about you.enjoy life.

ALL THE BEST

Answer 3

Try yoga and listen to music. Nothing better than these would ease your stress. Once a while you go out with your family. Share your problems with them. Speak off your mind and I'm sure they will help you out.

Answer 4

reading your name i believe that you are an indian and should be familiar with yoga....try it....it is one of the best ways to beat stress.....health body healthy mind or vice versa.....

Answer 5

Relax and meditate. Pray to God and you will get your answer if you are sincere and serious.